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I'm coming out! I'm stepping even further out of the shadows of Impostor Syndrome and Perfectionism, and I am bolding daring to share my Brilliance as a Transformational Mindset Coach with you and the world…


… Won't you join me on this personal transformation journey and challenge your Self to live your Brilliance with clarity, confidence and peace?


The "fixed mindsets" (Dr. Carol Dweck) of Impostor Syndrome (Dr. Pauline Clance) and Perfectionism (Dr. Brené Brown) are learned patterns of behavior that over time become deep-rooted and unconscious characteristics of a person's personality. Neither of these fixed mindsets are a mental condition, neuroses, psychoses, or disorder.


They are more like phenomenons, and for high-achieving women are complicated oxymorons - to be uber smart but to also believe that you’re “not good/perfect/ready enough” to take action on your big, bold dreams. These fixed mindsets are also very real self-limiting believe systems that can leave even the highest achieving woman questioning her self-worth, talents, personal value, and ability to make an impact.


An "Impostor" has a fixed mindset that can feel like she's walking through life on eggshells hoping not to make a fool of herself or let people down for not being "enough" or not meeting her or others expectations.


Impostor Syndrome tends to sound like, "I know I've worked my butt off to get to the corner office, but secretly, deep down inside, I don't feel like I deserve to be in this position. I fear that I'm not really that "smart" or that one day, I'll make a huge mistake, and everyone will see that I really don't belong here."


A "Perfectionist" (a common trait of an Impostor) has a fixed mindset that can feel like she's "waiting for perfect" (the "perfect" timing, circumstance, moment, feeling, professional title or degree…) BEFORE she feels ready and secure enough to take action on her dreams and goals.


The voice of Perfectionism can say, "I'd really love to move up in my career (or start my dream business), but I'm just not ready. I know I've been back to school several times, and I know the content, but I don't feel like I'm an expert or perfect enough to make the leap of faith…What if I fail? I’d die of embarrassment.”


Can you feel how stifling these fixed mindsets are? Can you sense how an Impostor-Perfectionist will go to incredible lengths to hide or dim her light, talents, desires, hopes, dreams… her Self, and go to extreme measures not to fail or be embarrassed? Can you hear how her habitual thought pattern keeps her from living her best life and prevents her from expressing herself fully?


Impostor Syndrome and Perfectionism are death to a person's Soul.


Let's make this experience even more complex and complicated. Let's add into the mix that the Impostor-Perfectionist is also a high-achieving, smart, talented, and ambitious woman. For all intents and purposes, and from the outside looking in, she has checked off all of the markers of success, and yet she internally experiences the thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and operates under the belief system that she is an Impostor. She is caught in a trap of waiting to be “perfect” before she can completely allow herself to enjoy life on her terms.

YUCK; this is so, so sad - my heart breaks for her!


Can you imagine how confusing and painful her experience must be - to be smart and frozen by fear?


Imagine that you are at the top of a mountain and that your goal and dream life is at the foot of the mountain, and the only way for you to experience your happiness is by jumping – taking action towards what you truly want.


In your mind, all you can imagine is your imminent death - action equals the possibility of failure, exposure, and rejection. As much as force yourself to think positively or try and psych yourself up, and regardless of how much you know you deeply want that dream life and can so clearly see it, you cannot for the life of you make yourself jump. To jump means to die. It means to risk embarrassment, being ostracized, failure, and shame…


…And yet you know that if you don't jump, you'll forever regret not taking action.


There you are - stuck, paralyzed, frozen in fear, filled with self-doubt, overcome by uncertainty.


Thoughts of, "But I'm smart, and I actually know what to do. Why can't I do it? Why can't I make myself jump, damn it?" lead to deeper self-shame and greater self-doubt because you know that you "should" be about to make yourself jump…


…Just jump!


And yet, there you are…


…Hidden. Anxious. Confused. Isolated. Sad. Overwhelmed.


But you are a high-achiever, and you are so good at masking your fear that no one knows the struggle you experience. No one really understands why you stay stuck at the top of the mountain. "I mean, with all of your talents, I don't know why you just don't (fill in the blank)… If I had the success you have, I wouldn't want for anything else… All you have to do is just do it…" are the motivational pep talks you receive.


And yet, there you are… stuck as time ticks away and your self-confidence wains, your vision becomes less clear, and your inner-peace erodes.


"Why can't I make myself be different?" is a silent plea you repeat to your Self.


I get it! And as an Impostor-Perfectionist in recovery, and as a Transformational Mindset Coach who specializes in supporting high-achieving, I am here to tell you that it's time for you to come out of the shadows of the fixed mindsets of Impostor Syndrome and Perfectionism. It's time for you to stop dimming your light. It’s time for you to stop pretending that you're "fine" as you continue to settle for less than your dream life.


Now is your time to boldly activate your Brilliance and to live the most authentic version of your Self. Not someday; but today!


There is another way!


There is a proven and scientifically based process that I've created that can support you make your quantum leap off that mountain top of fear and safely land you into your dream life - advancing your career or building your dream business (or accomplishing any personal goal) with clarity, confidence, and inner-peace. I've seen it work time and time again with high-achieving women who falsely believed they were Impostor-Perfectionists, and I know it can work for you, too!


Here's the core to my proven process:

Get to Clarity: I'll support you get REALLY clear on what you actually want to do with your "smarts" and talents, help you figure out who you want to be and how you want to show up in the world, and provide transformational mindset tools for you to make it ALL happen - in this lifetime!


Experience More Confidence: Right now, you are hindered (and at times are intensely suffering - I see you) from a learned and deeply rooted fixed mindset. You must unlearn what you thought was possible for you. This is my wheelhouse! Confidence building is where much of the work and the magic will happen during our work together.


Priceless Inner-Peace: When you're trapped in the "How Hole" ("How do I do all of this…?") it feels like you're drowning. Conversely, when you're aligned with your Divine Mission, walking in your Purpose and living your Brilliance, you will experience inner-peace, joy, and exuberant happiness. The experience of inner-peace is priceless!


What's it costing you to stay stuck? Your personal goals, your career, your dream business, your Self-confidence? Your legacy? Your ability to provide an abundant lifestyle for your family?


There is another way, and I'm so thrilled to guide you on this next phase of your personal transformation journey.


Don't wait! Enroll right now for the upcoming #GetToClarity: Break the Chains of Impostor Syndrome and Perfectionism Accelerator Course and Coaching Program and get to clarity, experience more confidence, and have priceless inner-peace!


I'm coming out! I'm stepping even further out of the shadows of Impostor Syndrome and Perfectionism, and I am bolding daring to share my Brilliance as a Transformational Mindset Coach with you and the world…


… Won't you join me on this personal transformation journey and challenge your Self to live your Brilliance with clarity, confidence and peace?


Love & Light,

Ryane Danielle LeCesne

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