I Gave Up F.E.A.R. For Lent!
GULP! I’m going to jump right in and cut to the heart of where I find myself today – March 9, 2017. At this stage of my life, my personal development and growth as an entrepreneur, here’s a mini-snapshot of my Now:
I KNOW what my Brilliance is – my Divine Gift from our Creator. I am a Brilliance Activator!
I AM CERTAIN that I am living my Brilliance through my creation of and work with INSPIRE.
I-KNOW-LIKE-I-KNOW that the “inner-work” works!
I AM A WITNESS that my personal practice, and that of INSPIRE clients, of the Live Your Brilliance™ 8-Step Process continues to quantum leap my business, my self-confidence as an entrepreneur and my consciousness as a Child of God.
I AM CLEAR, I am focused and I am strategic with my vision for where I intend to take INSPIRE and my life…
…then why, oh why is taking action to SHARE my Brilliance SO DAMN CHALLENGING AND SCARY?! I mean, with such clarity and certainty, “shouldn’t” taking action be easy, exciting and… (yikes) NOT SCARY? What’s the deal with all this F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) I’m experiencing? Why isn’t Living My Brilliance EASY?!
In your life, although you may not know it, you create your experiences first within your Self, spirit, being, then in your mind, then by your words, and finally by your actions.
- David Cameron Gikandi A Happy Pocket Full of Money (AHPF$)
When I first created INSPIRE Brand Consulting, and took my leap of faith to “go out on my own,” I lived in a state-of-being (my Being-ness) that constantly swung from the utter thrill of living my Purpose to the paralysis of fear, uncertainty and doubt. I felt like a ping-pong ball in an Olympic match rapidly bouncing back and forth, back and forth from: “Yes, I can!” to “Girl bye! Who do you think you are?” to “I love my work and life!” to “Maybe I’m not enough: smart enough, capable enough, hardworking enough… [ ________ enough].”
This mental quicksand is a point of tension that is a painful and is an exhausting place to create from. This is the state-of-being that many of my clients are in when they start INSPIRE coaching programs. And, like INSPIRE clients, I was left feeling stuck, tired, disappointed, AND excited, inspired and hopeful for what was to come – ALL at the same time. What resulted was a cycle of quick, hard-charging starts AND abrupt, dead-stop halts.
You create a business in your Self, your being, then in your thoughts and words, and then you act to set up a system to receive this business in a manifested physical way so that you can experience it.
- David Cameron Gikandi AHPF$
I know too much and I have come too far on my “inner-work” works journey to stay stuck in the mental quicksand of fear, uncertainty and doubt for any length of time. Rather than stay stuck in the quicksand “shoulding” all over myself (and INSPIRE), I’ve learned to quantum leap myself up and out of the mental quicksand.
What intentional steps have I learned to take each and every time I am faced with the fear that wants to hold me back from expansion, growth and shining my Brilliance? And, if you connect with the experience of the inner-ping-pong match, what can you do to shift your state-of-being from stuck to inspired action? Here’s a quick, tiny peak into how I implement the Live Your Brilliance 8-Step Process Steps #1 & 2 on a daily basis.
With lots of practice, curiosity, patients, and forgiveness, I have learned to become the observer of my thoughts, feelings and subsequent actions. What I mean is: I’ve intentionally developed the skill of being aware of and conscious of my thought habits – the inspired, empowered voice of a my “Hero in Victory” AND the self-sabotage voice of my “Hero in Defeat.” Self-awareness is the foundational step for personal change and growth.
You cannot change what you do not see.
- Ryane Danielle LeCesne
Step #1 of the Live Your Brilliance 8-Step Process is to Identify, Know and Own Your Brilliance. I’ve worked tirelessly over the past two years (truly my whole life) to nurture my Brilliance. I’ve come to embrace my gifts as a Brilliance Activator, to fall in love with my certainty that the “inner-work” works, and to know-like-I-know-like-I-know that I am a disciple of the movement sharing and teaching that the “inner-work” works. When I live from this state of certainty, I create from this state of certainty, and I receive results aligned with this state of certainty.
Okay, Step #1 DONE: I’ve successfully identified, know and own my Brilliance! GREAT! Now what? Here’s where that sneaky, allusive devil called F.E.A.R. (False Evidence Appearing Real) is on the ready to hold me (and you) held hostage – gun to head style. FEAR wants to keep me and you playing small, and trapped in the belief that I am (you are) not enough to accomplish my dreams and goals… not enough to Live My Brilliance.
So here I am: I know my Brilliance! I’ve created a beautiful business aligned with my Brilliance! I love my work!
… AND YET I AM TERRIFIED TO SHARE MY BRILLIANCE! Under-the-covers-don’t-want-to-answer-the-phone-please-no-one-knock-on-the-door scared! Scared of what you might ask? I mean aren’t I prepared: I have tons of advanced education from outstanding schools, I am a certified leadership coach, I have excellent training, I am very bright, I work hard in the field I am MOST passionate about… what’s so DAMN SCARY?!
Well, you know… I’m afraid of being caught: caught not being smart enough, not being good enough, not being worthy enough, not being as _____, _____, _____ as I think I am… What if I’m rejected? What if I really can’t do what I think, feel or say I can do? What if I fail - the shame is too daunting? What if I succeed - how will I be able to keep producing?
Do you know this drill? Don’t leave a girl hanging out here by herself! Comment in the comment box if you know what I’m talking about!
This is real life! I am a real person with a real dream, a real vision that I left a thriving career to 100 percent commit to bring to life… Why am I so DAMN SCARED?
I'm telling these tears, go and fall away, fall away
May the last one burn into flames
- Beyoncé Freedom (Lemonade)
Guess what? There is NO SUCCESS WITHOUT OVERCOMING MY F.E.A.R.! F.E.A.R. is an incredibly important part of bravery, courage, persistence, faith, certainty and success. Without facing my F.E.A.R. of my Brilliance, I would never know or experience the incredible fruits of my labor.
Step #2 of the Live Your Brilliance 8-Step Process is Reframe Your Limiting Beliefs… oh boy, this is a second-by-second commitment to live from my Higher-Consciousness.
Right now, INSPIRE is my life, my joy, my gift back to the Universe. I absolutely cannot afford to waist time stuck in the quicksand of F.E.A.R. The “Fear Activation Process” I have been coached to follow, and that I coach others to follow, that (with patience, self-acceptance and kindness) is my HOOK OUT of the quicksand of F.E.A.R. – I used this process TODAY in preparation of posting this blog.
Okay, ready? Here’s the “Fear Activation Process” to quantum leap you being from stuck in quicksand into taking inspired action:
1. Take a few deep, long, slow breaths to find your Center.
2. Actually listen to what your Voice-of-Self-Sabotage is telling you. What is it saying? Really listen.
My Voice-of-Self-Sabotage: Are you ridiculous? Don’t post this blog! People aren’t even going to read it, and if they do you’re not going to be understood. Post that blog, and people will see that you don’t have it all together… Shall I continue : )
3. Take a deep breath. Imagine F.E.A.R. a person. Get face-to-face with “her.” Breathe in the F.E.A.R. Invite “her” into a conversation – ask her to “prove” that you are NOT enough. And remember: A winner does not quit on themselves - thanks Bee.
Ask her: What is the worst that will happen if I post this blog for the world to see?
F.E.A.R: People will know that you are not perfect. (If I am really honest with myself and you, this is what I hear.)
Ask her: So what? No one is perfect. What is the worst that will happen if people know I am not perfect?
F.E.A.R: You will be caught out there not “knowing your stuff.”
Ask her: Is it true that I don't know what I am talking about? Is it true that I don’t know or better yet haven’t mastered how to effectively inspire, support and celebrate people make quantum leaps in their lives? Is it true that I don't know how to Live My Brilliance?
F.E.A.R: Crickets… Silence…
Tell her: I’m glad you agree! Thanks for warning me, I’m good now – now that I see you for who you are False Evidence Appearing Real. But thank you; without you, I wouldn't or couldn’t ever know and experience Living My Brilliance.
F.E.A.R. never goes away. It’s about managing your F.E.A.R. It’s about You taking control of your journey – You being behind the wheel, courage being in the front passenger seat, and F.E.A.R. locked in the trunk. No matter what, F.E.A.R. is coming for the ride : )
- Tara Sage Steeves Create Your Life! &
"Creator of the "Fear Activation Process"
4. Take INSPIRED ACTION - NOW. Push send on this post! Call my leads! Say, “Yes!” Share my Brilliance!
Act as if you are already the person you want to be.
Act as if it were impossible not to get where you wish to go.
- David Cameron Gikandi AHPF$
5. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
This year for Lent, I have made a commitment to myself and to INSPIRE to push past my F.E.A.R by intentionally using this “Fear Activation Process*” on Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.
The next time you are faced with False Evidence Appearing Real in your life, I encourage you to try the “Fear Activation Process*.” And, if you’re ready to really make the changes in your life to Live Your Brilliance™, I invite you to send us an email at ryane@INSPIREBrandConsulting.com. Don’t stay stuck in the quicksand! Your Brilliance is waiting to be released by you, and we are excited to inspire, support and celebrate you #LiveYourBrilliance!
Thank You for your time, your love, your acceptance of the Brilliant, imperfect me!
May you be inspired to reflect your Brilliance in all of who you are!
A Course In Miracles: Lesson #1: Nothing I see in this room [on this street, from this window, in this place] means anything.
Personal Affirmation: I take brave and inspired action. My actions are aligned with the Being-ness of my Brilliance, my intentions, my thoughts, feelings and words. I already have everything I need to take a step towards Living My Brilliance NOW!
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